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ghostrider6973 started this conversation
Aug 25, 2010

After two years my girlfriend left, she is military as am I.  She was in a field training with the infantry and after three weeks there she came home and packed.  Took a girl that I consider mine, and our son.  I am completely lost, broke and so confused.  She gave so very few vague reasons for leaving other than she was confused and felt she didn't love me.  That night she was in his house.  I know that something happened while she was there.  I believe she will come home but she won't get into details about anything when we talk.  I love her more than my own life.  Literally.  I'm thinking it a lot, car crash, gun... but I can't move on in this world or the next without her.  I can't leave my two oldest children.  I just need to know from a female, at 20 with two children what is going on in her head and heart.  I'd like to chat if possible.  I have questions she won't answer and love that won't stop hurting.  Someone help me please. 

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lunar*star
Aug 10, 2011
hello there,i just started on this site not too long ago,first becase one nite i was up late,as usual& i typed into google"im so depressed" then found this site.ive always been the kind of person thats very happy,but went through alot of terrible things the past two years,& it caught up with me.i got help& feel much better,back to my old self.i give very excelent advice,exspiecaly about understaning women,so if i can help or answer any questions for you,let me know.try to find some peace,in any way you can,i know its hard but finding peace will give your mind clarity.hope to hear from you.
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Anonymous
Aug 25, 2010

At 20y/o with 2 kids, she doesn't have much going on. She is confused and far too young to understand what she is doing both to you and those children. She has no sense of stability what so ever.

However, if the child is yours, biologically,then you have rights as well. But with those rights come obilgations (visitation/child support) This is not something youtake lightly either. Granted she is not thinking in these terms right now, but before long she will - especially in terms of the child support. Get it all in writing and get a DNA test before you do anything. And seek the advice of an attorney who specializes in FATHER'S RIGHTS. 

If she is 20 and you are 36 , that is a 16 year gap in your ages. Not to point out the obvious, but what do either of you have in common? You may want to protect her and those children while she wants to go out clubbing.... Be realistic about your relationship. She will probably come running back to you time after time when things get rough in the real world and she needs a shoulder to cry on or someone to take care of the kids. But are you sure you are more to her than just a father figure? Think  about it. You are ready to settle down and she is still out playing around.... take this time to truly evaluate your relationship before you accept her once and for all, baggage and all. 

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